Abused

There are three different types of abuse.

Physical Abuse: any intentional, unwanted contact with your body by either the abuser or an object within the abuser’s control. Physical abuse does not have to leave a mark or bruise. It doesn’t even need to hurt.  It includes: scratching, punching, biting, kicking, throwing something at you, pulling hair, choking, pushing, using a weapon, slapping, holding you down, etc. 


Sexual Abuse: any sexual behavior that is unwanted or interferes with your right to say "no" to sexual advances.  It includes: rape, unwanted kissing or touching, unwanted rough or violent sexual activity, forcing or pressuring you to go farther than you want.


Verbal/Emotional/Mental Abuse: anything the abuser says or does that causes you to be afraid, lowers your self esteem, or manipulates or controls your feelings or behavior. It includes: name calling & put downs, yelling and screaming, intentionally embarrassing you in front of other people, keeping you from seeing or talking to members of your family or your friends, telling you what to do, making you feel responsible for the abuse, stalking, threatening to commit suicide in order to manipulate you, threats of violence to harm you or people you care about.


I haven't been in many relationships. In fact, in high school, I really never dated, except during a little bit of senior year. But that changed when I went to college. 


The summer before my freshman year of college, I met a guy (who will remain nameless for legal purposes). Being young and naive, I honestly thought I had met the one for me. I was wrong.

Looking back, it was a rocky relationship from the get go. When we first got together, he pulled a lot of bullcrap and didn't speak to me again for two weeks. After begging and pleading on my part, we started talking again and got together. We were happy for a while, constantly talking, texting, im-ing, etc. I thought he was the sweetest guy in the world. I could not have been more wrong. I apologize in advance for the language, but there's really no way I can censor the names he's called me.

He called me a bitch, stupid, dumbass, ugly, fat, lazy, retarded, moron, slut, whore, skank, hoe, hoebag, dumb...the list goes on and on. And with time, I found myself believing every single thing he called me.

I'll save the details (because I don't want to post those on the internet), but long story short, I've come to terms and I admit that I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. And what's scared me even more is the fact that had I stayed with him, it would've gotten worse and worse.

Hence, why I'm writing this. It's taken me far to long to say, and I apologize to those whose feelings got hurt by me not telling you, but you need to understand. It's hard for someone to admit things like this to themselves, let alone to other people. And sadly, it's taken me over a year to admit this to myself. Because of that relationship, I lack self esteem, confidence, drive, self worth, self pride, and so many more things. It's amazing what the power of words can do to someone.

Girls and guys, if any of you have struggled or are struggling in an abusive relationship, get out now and find someone to help you and the person you're with. Take it from me, the emotional abuse is only the beginning. It often progresses from physical to much much worse. Just know that you are loved and you are cared for and there will always be someone for you to talk to and help you through it.

You're not alone
Together we stand
I'll be by your side, you know I'll take your hand
When it gets cold
And it feels like the end
There's no place to go
You know I won't give in
No I won't give in

Keep holding on
'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through
Just stay strong
'Cause you know I'm here for you, I'm here for you
There's nothing you could say
Nothing you could do
There's no other way when it comes to the truth
So keep holding on
'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through

So far away
I wish you were here
Before it's too late, this could all disappear
Before the doors close
And it comes to an end
With you by my side I will fight and defend
I'll fight and defend
Yeah, yeah

Keep holding on
'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through
Just stay strong
'Cause you know I'm here for you, I'm here for you
There's nothing you could say
Nothing you could do
There's no other way when it comes to the truth
So keep holding on
'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through

Hear me when I say, when I say I believe
Nothing's gonna change, nothing's gonna change destiny
Whatever's meant to be will work out perfectly
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

La da da da
La da da da
La da da da da da da da da

Keep holding on
'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through
Just stay strong
'Cause you know I'm here for you, I'm here for you
There's nothing you could say
Nothing you could do
There's no other way when it comes to the truth
So keep holding on
'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through

Keep holding on
Keep holding on

There's nothing you could say
Nothing you could do
There's no other way when it comes to the truth
So keep holding on
'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through